the wedding dinner
back from one of my college wedding’s banquet not too long ago… at first there should be 10 person at my table…. including me, my colleges, and ex colleges…. 3 can’t attained because of some other business….so there were 7….happily chatting and eating…dish no.2…one not feeling well and leave…. then there was 6…we can’t to enjoy… dish no. 5, two have to leave because they have too…so there were 4…. barely able to eat anymore… dish no. 7…. one have to go… because of sore throat, need to rest early… so there were 3…. looking rather restless… complaining why does the rest of the dishes not being serve more early… finally the last dish… we quickly take a bit and bid the newly wed farewell… feels everyone is rushing to finish their own stuff… moving ahead .. On and on…. makes me feels so left out.. out of the race… the game…
I have know the groom , for 5 ½ yr already… during the 5 1/2 year he had break off… a period of downturn… then a gf… now his wife… i am happy for him… but at the same time, i feels funny… everyone is … progressing… but not me… i feels like the same me 5 yrs ago….have not changed… A heavy feeling… not sad, not angry, not frustrated… just HEAVY….i guess i am not the only person who feels this way….we sees everyone and feels left behind …but others may see us this way too…i have ask a close friend, have i changed during these years? her reply is “do u feel?” ….looking back…. i think i had…. I just dun feel it…. but i believe i had…. and that its all that matters… our faith.
here's a song i found it meaningful... and insightful... and ...
Artist: Keane
Album: Hopes And Fears
Title: Everybody's Changing
You say you wander your own land
But when I think about it
I don't see how you canYou're aching, you're breaking
And I can see the pain in your eyes
Says everybody's changing
And I don't know why
So little time
Try to understand that I'm
Trying to make a move to stay in the game
I try to stay awake and remember my name
But everybody's changing
And I don't feel the same
You're gone from here
And soon you will disappear
Cause everybody's changing
And I don't feel right
So little timeTry to understand that I'm
Trying to make a move to stay in the game
I try to stay awake and remember my name
But everybody's changing
And I don't feel the same
So little time
Try to understand that I'm
Trying to make a move to stay in the game
I try to stay awake and remember my name
But everybody's changing
And I don't feel the same
Well...anyway... the music played for that night were as follow...
1st entrance song : Pachelbel Cannon In D
2nd entrance : Shania Twain - From This Moment On
during dinner backgroup music are from the album :- Kelvin Kern - More Than Words, and and some classical music from ... i think :- The Best Relaxing Classics compilation...
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posted by mmn @ 1:12 AM
3 Comments:
why is there a need to be in the "rat race" and always compete and compare with other ppl? doesn't that make a person very stressful and he/she would always be unhappy?
i guess what's more important is self-improvement - constantly learning new things to keep the mind alert and being happy and contented with our lives. everyone has their own pace in life, own timing and own targets - no need to feel disheartened when we see others ahead of us.
like the chinese saying "ren bi ren qi shi ren" - the more we compare with each other, the more frustrated we would feel.
just a penny of my thoughts.
chihuahua
"Don't let one cloud obliterate the whole sky."
TGIF....
aure
All stressed up and no place to blow. Does that sometimes sound like you?
It is rarely the big crises of life that cause us destructive worry. Rather, those persistent small concerns do the most long-term damage to our spirits, minds and bodies.
According to Bernard Asbell and Karen Wynn in the book WHAT THEY KNOW ABOUT YOU (Random House, 1991) here are the top ten reasons middle-aged people worry:
1. Concern about weight
2. Health of a family member
3. Rising prices
4. House maintenance
5. Too much to do
6. Misplacing or losing things
7. Outside or yard maintenance
8. Property, investments, and taxes
9. Crime
10. Physical appearance
How many times do you find yourself on this list? Yet, none of these is a huge problem. It's true…you don't get ulcers from what you eat -- you get them from what's eating you!
I asked a woman who was facing some truly large problems, "Can you just get through today?" I felt there was no other course of action for her than to concentrate on managing only the concerns of the present. Anything more seemed overwhelming.
She said, "I always take just one day at a time. And sometimes I take one hour at a time. And sometimes it's one minute!"
If worry and anxiety are getting the best of you, first take steps to manage the problem, fix the problem or get rid of the problem. Then, you need only look ahead to the end of the day. Can you get through this day? This hour? If so, that may be enough.
It was the Buddha who said, "The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly." And Jesus said, "Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself."
It's about learning to live one day at a time. And it's great advice...particularly when you are all stressed up and no place to blow.
By Steve Goodier © 2004
~~~ aure
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